March 21st - June 21st 2021
Conscious Communication Training for Heart Intelligent Relationships, Businesses & Communities

A 90-Day Experiential Online Coaching Program For Your Personal, Relational & Professional Development

100% Money-Back Guarantee

Once you've registered you'll have a full 10 days to try out this training from the time the course starts. If you don't absolutely love the experience, simply reach out to us for a full refund.
"Practical skills to live more joyful lives - this training is heart-centered, heart-led and heart-opening. You will laugh. You will cry.

 But most of all you will deepen in an experience of what it is to truly feel loved and to love others authentically from your innermost heart."
Priya Mahtani
Heart iQ Coach, Graduated in 2014
What Is The Heart iQ Challenge?
And why it matters...

From: Christian Pankhurst

Heart IQ Retreat Centre, Netherlands

Dear Friend,

Welcome! If this is your first time here, then you're probably wondering, 




A Language of the Heart

Heart iQ is a language built upon the art, science and philosophy of intimate human connection and relationships.

It's a language of unconditional love – a language of the Heart, which goes well beyond just the verbal expressions that most of us rely upon. 

It integrates every facet of the human-spiritual experience – using your fully embodied emotions, energy, sexuality, intellectuality, intuition and spiritual resources to express your deepest truth. 

It is a language that connects us, and when you become fluent, you'll have the key to unlocking unlimited Joy.

The Heart iQ language crosses all borders, all cultures, and transcends all verbal limitations. It is a global bridge that can deepen and transform the relationship you have with yourself, as well as your relationships with friends, family and partners.

As more of us learn this language, we can transform our communities, build our tribes, and even impact our nations – reconnecting all of us to our own intrinsic goodness and essence, to one another, to Mother Earth, and to the divine.

There's nothing woo-woo here.

An Evolution of Communication

The language of Heart iQ is the result of over twenty years of study and research in the fields of heart centered communication, authentic relating and embodiment. 

Through direct observation of thousands of group interactions during my deep dive relationship and awakening retreats, I began to see patterns of communication and conflict, and learned how to translate these dynamics into a new language of the heart that everyone can learn.

Language has evolved over thousands of years, becoming more advanced over time. The introduction of verbal communication using basic hand signals and grunts was a huge leap forward in our evolution as it allowed us to convey complex ideas. It led to massive innovation, collaboration and change on a worldwide scale.

Despite the move toward a more technologically connected world, it is clear that we are divided on many deeper levels. Nations are at war, communities are in conflict, families are breaking apart, couples are divorcing and individuals are suffering with loneliness and a sense of separation that is being numbed by distractions of modern life – contributing to an increase in mental health issues.

Culture of Connection

Today’s method of communicating, as advanced as it is, is built to connect the mind instead of our hearts, but it is no longer enough. 

We need a new way of communication through connection – a way that connects us to the long-ignored sacred and divine aspects of our true nature and that of others.

Heart iQ is my contribution to the emerging culture of connection where communication occurs on multiple levels simultaneously.  We all know that communication is multifaceted – our words, body, energy, emotions, and spirit all convey our message.

Until now though, there has never been a system to harness all of these aspects TOGETHER. 

When we communicate in a way where the aim is not to say the ‘right thing’, but the ‘real thing’, we end up communicating our authentic essence and heart – integrating our higher realms of consciousness with the perfectly imperfect wounded parts of our humanity.

Heart iQ is highly intuitive. It's a language you already know deep down, but to which you have lost access. You were born with it, but it's been conditioned out of you by our mentally driven culture.

Create Impactful Lives

You can empower your life, relationships and community with Heart iQ’s transformational technology. The impacts are truly limitless.

And this is why the Heart iQ Challenge was created.  

The Heart iQ Challenge is a 90-day online coaching program that will teach you healthy communication habits that will develop what we call "Emotional Hygiene".  Emotional Hygiene is the result of clear, clean, non-toxic ways of communicating with those whom you are in connection. But it takes practice! 

With this 90-day challenge, you will be guided step-by-step, day-by-day to increase your Heart iQ and become more hygienic in the way you relate to yourself, others and the world.

Deep personal happiness, healthy intimate relationships and resonant communities are created when these tools are learned, practiced and used in daily life.

If you feel called to study a deeper, richer, more heart-based approach to authentic connection and intimacy in relationships, then look no further – the Heart iQ 90-Day Challenge will help you get there.

How Do You Know if Heart IQ is Right For You?
Heart IQ is a language built on a rich philosophical foundation. Check out some of our tenants below. Do you resonate?


We prioritize the acceptance of ‘what is’ in Clients and ourselves - which means that we agree to not make who we are and where we are in the moment wrong or shameful. This creates safety, which is the most important aspect of our facilitation.


We act from the intention to make the maximum impact with the minimum amount of intervention - which means that we operate with the guideline of ‘less is more’ as a way to trust the intelligent life force that animates each of us.


We practice listening to and following the heart through this work - trusting that life will give us bread crumbs of wisdom to follow as we open our hearts and minds to receiving what is real and possible in the moment. We agree to move forward in our own lives and in how we support Clients by following the unfolding and  what moves with ease and inspiration rather than moving toward a goal at all costs.


We live by the truth that we are all intrinsically good and that goodness lies at the core of everyone. All of us carry wounding, some of which will permanently change us. However, our intrinsic goodness remains intact and accessible in spite of our wounding.


We include ALL parts of the Self in this work - dark, light, painful, joyful, awkward, refined, tender, confronting, closed and generous, as examples. Our intention is to integrate these parts in one whole self.


We believe that all healing has its own time; therefore, we allow Clients to be where they are in the moment rather than advising or counseling them to be in a better place.  As a result, we don't push Clients where they don't want to go or hold them accountable for the changes they want to make in their lives.


We believe that healing is more powerful when in a group. Pain is collective and requires others to digest it fully. Through this collective healing, life spontaneously reorganizes and transforms.

Client Spotlight: Geoff, Canada
Click the image above to hear Geoff share his experience 
What You'll Learn
Challenge Content Breakdown

During the 90-Day Heart iQ Challenge, you will be guided through weekly personal, partnered and circle practices. See below for a summary of what you'll learn in each of these areas.

Heart iQ Personal Awakening Practices

Track Your Inner World

Being able to consistently access joy in your daily life can be challenging. We've devised a system of processing your moment-to-moment reality called Heart iQ Tracking. 

Heart iQ Tracking provides valuable insight into what’s causing resistance to joy, what’s getting in the way, and which thoughts and judgments are keeping you from loving what is alive in you in every moment. 

Increase Capacity

Capacity is the amount of open 'bandwidth' you have available to stay connected to your Heart before you become triggered into collapse, fight, or flight.

If you are operating at low capacity, you will not have the emotional and mental strength to meet your pain and the pain of others in a beneficial and non-toxic way. In the 90-Day Challenge, you will receive several practices to increase your natural state of capacity.

Amplify Presence

Presence is more than the act of being attentive. In Heart iQ we define Presence as the integrated practice of being in connection to your breath, feeling grounded, energetically 'holding' while being tethered to source and meeting the moment with an open, responsive Heart. 

In the 90-Day Challenge you will be guided through practices to increase your embodied presence which will serve every Heart you touch.

Raise Consciousness

A big part of the 90-Day Challenge is to become aware of the multiple layers that make up 'you'. You will learn how to become conscious of your defence mechanisms, your shadows and your blind spots as well as how you suppress your pain and express yourself in unhealthy and toxic ways.

Raising your consciousness in these areas is key to changing old habits and establishing new healthy behaviours.

Become Embodied

Heart iQ is an embodied way of connection and communication with oneself and other. To become more embodied, you’ll embrace bringing your awareness into the body, deepening your connection to movement, breath, sound & touch. 

In the 90-Day Challenge you’ll have the opportunity to deepen your embodiment, and as a result, activate your life force while staying grounded and connected to your intrinsic goodness & authentic essence.

Detoxify the BodyMind

Most people are aware of nutritional cleanses where one detoxes the body from the accumulated gunk created from unhealthy eating habits. 

However, we also need to cleanse our emotional and energetic bodies from the toxic buildup of repressed pain created by making choices that distract us from our feelings and expressing our full light. In the 90-Day Challenge, you will enter into a gentle detox of your emotional and energetic body bringing awareness, compassion and lightness to your being. 

Manage Energy, Trigger & Trauma

We are all source connected expressions of love and light. Yet we also carry wounding and trauma, that can often go “underground,” sabotaging our personal happiness and relationships. 

In the 90-Day Challenge, you will learn how to hold all of your parts in love and navigate triggers more effectively. 

Heart iQ Relationship Building Practices

Share Triggers Effectively

Most of us have felt triggered in connection with others, especially those we love. Learning how to track these triggers and unpack the 'zip file' so we may own our projections and stay in healthy connection is a cornerstone of Heart iQ. 

In the 90-Day Challenge, you will practice sharing your inner world without blame or collapse, while staying in your truth. Building this capacity will allow you to feel others and be felt, to be in connection rather than conflict, in what historically may have felt stressful and overwhelming.  

Own Your Stuff

Knowing how to listen, acknowledge, praise, reassure, confirm another's reality, while moving your emotion in a non-toxic way is critical. 

You'll learn how to consciously express and own your stuff which will create more connection rather than closure and shut down. 

Release Toxic Relationship Dynamics

When we're not conscious of how we use our pain to hurt, manipulate, castrate or punish, we are in a state of weaponised closure, where our closed heart is now wanting to act out rather than open to the heart break and be with it consciously. 

You're going to learn how to track your pain, your shadows and defence strategies while learning how to communicate them lovingly with compassion and grace.

Resolve Conflicts Artfully

It is expected that as we journey together and open our hearts, disappointment, hurt and boundary violations will come up. However, how we communicate and repair in those moments is not only critical, it's an art form. 

n the 90-Day Challenge, you'll have the opportunity to practice and experience how intimacy can actually deepen through sharing your withholds.

"Dare to Share"

It's easy to share non-triggering stuff when everyone is in a good place. But how to share when there’s a risk of causing pain, heartbreak or anger? 

In the 90-Day Challenge, you'll be invited to practice sharing in a way that will avoid the common pitfalls of this level of communication, allowing you to be free to live your truth.

Agreements for a Safe Container

Making relationship and connection agreements is one of the most vital things you can do to foster both your personal awakening, as well as create depth, intimacy and juiciness in your relationships. 

Much of the pain that’s transferred between you and another is due to personal and relationship boundaries not being defined and needs not being spoken.

Heart iQ Circle & Community Practices

The Laws of Energetic Group Dynamics

When gathering together in groups larger than 8, group dynamics begin to emerge. Learning to understand these dynamics will help you translate what is happening without taking on the energies in the amplified field. 

Being in circle can be very rich and gratifying, but if you don't understand what is happening in the field, it can leave you confused, disconnected and re-traumatised.

The Heart iQ Circle Protocol 

In the 90-Day Challenge, you will be trained in a basic structure around how to be in circle, how to open up the space and guide shares, as well as how to share impact and 'medicine' and close the circle properly. 

Learning to facilitate basic structure is a key element in Heart iQ as circles derail very quickly without leadership. Leadership in a circle is provided by different members in the group who have clarity on what’s moving in the moment. 

Heart iQ Generational Healing Circle

Some of our pain can't be cleared on our own or in relationship because it is collective in nature – passed on from others that came before us. 

We call this ‘generational pain’ and the best way to clear it is through a specific practice we teach in the 90-Day Challenge.

Group Agreements

Having clear agreements is critical for successful communities and circles to flourish. Agreements create a container for everyone to rest in, and it establishes safety and protocols for certain dynamics if and when they occur. 

The more we speak the unspoken, the more resonant a field becomes. Therefore, the clearer you make the agreements up front, the higher the quality of circle you will have.

Heart iQ Wisdom Council

One of the most powerful ways to get insight about a specific area of your life is to call a ‘wisdom council’. We can leverage the wisdom of the amplified field to reflect areas of your life that you might be missing or that are hidden in your blind spots. 

Learning to be in a wisdom council is a great skill to have and will serve you and others for the rest of your life.

Clearing Conflict in Circle

An important part of community living is to clear conflicts quickly and directly in order to keep the field and the community emotionally hygienic. 

However, learning to clear withholds and judgments without getting into deeper conflict and disconnection requires a lot of skill and practice, a journey you will begin here in the 90-day Challenge.

Giving & Receiving Feedback

Feedback is the key to growth. We cannot see ourselves fully without a mirror. Learning to give high quality feedback requires wielding a sharp and accurate sword since there’s no use in looking into a distorted mirror. Similarly, receiving feedback requires openness to change and humility to accept what might feel like bitter pills to swallow.
What You'll Receive
Course Breakdown and Structure
PART 1: Home Study Program (Delivered 100% Online)
Receive high quality videos and tutorials. Delivered on our mobile friendly and easy to use Heart iQ Academy training site.
Every Monday to Friday, you will receive video lessons taking you through the Heart iQ curriculum. The weekends are for integration and catch up.

Each week on Tuesday, you will receive a personal, relational and circle practice to apply in your life. We recommend doing the Challenge with a loved one or alternatively, get paired up with someone else on the course. This way, when you get your weekly practices, you can take time to try them out and get a deeper, embodied experience.

Additionally, you get access to Sumir and Christian for the 90 days through our Q&A service on the training site. At the bottom of every lesson there's space to leave your questions and Christian and Sumir will personally respond.

One of the perks of our training platform is the emphasis on connection and community with other members. Many graduates of the program report they develop life long friendships and some even found the love of their life!

PART 2: Live Coaching Calls (Delivered 100% Online)
Go deeper by participating in our Live Coaching option. Practice, ask questions and get coached as you integrate what you are learning in your life. 
If you decide to take the Live Coaching option (recommended), you will have the opportunity to take part in live small group (6-8 people) coaching calls each week, facilitated by one of our Heart iQ Challenge coaches.

This is an invaluable component as you will get a chance to take each week's personal, relational and circle practices and work out any bad habits or errors.

We have coaches in the USA, Canada, Europe and Australia so we can accommodate multiple timezones and languages. 

Additionally, you will also get two calls a month with Christian and Sumir which takes place on Monday evenings at 8pm CET (replays will be made available). This is a live call with the entire group as we connect in one large amplified field. Expect a combination of break out sessions, Q&A, live coaching and inspirational bonus content that you won't find in the course material.
PART 3: BONUS Live Event (with Livestream Option)
End the Challenge with an Epic Live Event. In a single weekend you can discover more about yourself than you could in years. It’s the benefit of being in an amplified field together with a tribe of courageous, loving and open Hearts. 
As a bonus, we're also including a ticket to the Heart iQ Experience live event (normally €497), to take place in the Netherlands.

For those who can't make this event live due to distance and cost etc, we will have a high quality interactive livestream option.

The Livestream version of this event is included with the Self Study version of the course and a full in-person ticket is included with the Live Coaching version (food and accommodation is extra).

This event is a 4-day experiential training led by Sumir and Christian and takes place on the final weekend of the Challenge and is a private invite only event for those who have done the Challenge. This way, we can celebrate together and deepen as a tribe as we refine, recap and review the personal, relational and circle practices you've been studying online for the previous 90 days. This is a great way to complete the Challenge!

The benefit of this event is that you get to experience the amplified field and receive the in-person guidance of Sumir and Christian as they take you through the material. Even if you choose the livestream option, you will be offered an opportunity to take part in guided practices and breakout groups over Zoom.
Register for the 2021 Heart iQ Challenge

There are 3 ways to experience The Heart iQ Challenge.
Choose your preferred option below, and let your journey to true relationship health begin!

We only run the Heart iQ Challenge ONCE a year, so register ASAP to reserve your spot.

option 1:  self study VERSION

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  • 90-Day Video Training Course. You will receive videos, worksheets and audio files with practices, tips and training on Healthy Emotional Hygiene & Communication Practices. You get lifetime access to the complete Heart iQ Challenge Video Program.
  • Online community. The entire program is delivered on our custom social network and community site. This allows us to move off of public sites like Facebook and allows you to engage privately with other community members. We have a thriving community to help support, practice and integrate your experience, and it's one of the highlights of the program. 
  • Special Partner Pricing. We highly recommend experiencing the 90-Day Challenge with a partner if possible. When you register, you can add a friend, partner or family member and get a massive (50%) discount.
  • BONUS: Heart iQ Experience Livestream Event. On July 29th - August 1st 2021 you are invited to attend our graduation Livestream event. If you choose the Self Study option, you will get complimentary access to the online version delivered over Zoom. The livestream will be moderated and interactive.

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  • Everything in the Self Study Version Plus...
  • Access to 7 x LIVE Training Calls with Sumir and Christian. Every two weeks, the group meets for a live training call with Christian and Sumir where you will get to ask questions, receive coaching and also practice the material.
  • Access to 12 x LIVE Small Group Coaching Calls with a Heart iQ Challenge Coach. Each week, you will receive a 2 hour small group call (6-8 people in each group) guided by a Heat iQ Challenge Coach. We have multi-lingual coaches all over the world to meet different time zone needs.
  • BONUS: Heart iQ Experience Live in-person event. On July 29th  - August 1st 2021 you are invited to attend our graduation event! If you choose the Live Coaching option, you will get an in-person ticket and will only need to cover your travel, food and accommodation. This bonus is valued at €497.

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  • Everything in the Coaching Version Plus...
  • 14 Day Residential Training at New Eden. Starting with the Heart iQ Experience on July 29th, you will stay on for a deep dive journey with Christian and Sumir at the home of Heart iQ in the Netherlands. You will not only take time each day mastering and refining the core practices found in the Heart iQ Challenge, but you will also experience Heart iQ Circle and Mat work, learning the foundations of facilitating the amplified field and doing the embodied emergent work that makes Heart iQ so special. The live training ends August 12th.
  • Food and Accommodation. Included in the fee is all your meals and shared accommodation for the duration of your stay.
  • Certificate of Completion. At the end of the training you will receive a certificate of completion.
  • BONUS: Additional 6 x LIVE Professional Training Calls with Sumir and Christian. Every two weeks during the 90-day Challenge, those in the professional training will be invited to gather online for a live training call where you will get additional training and practice.
Our Quality Guarantee and Refund Policy


You have a 10 day trial period which begins on the day the course starts that allows you to actively participate in the program during this time. If after 10 days, you don’t feel we’ve delivering the value promised, you may apply for a refund.

Refunds can be requested at

What Others Say
Hear directly from other Heart iQ Graduates
About Your Facilitators: Christian & Sumir

From Sumir Brown, Co-Facilitator of the Heart iQ Challenge

Christian and I have a remarkable relationship —  inextricably soul connected, guardians of each other's goodness, in support of whatever brings the other joy, and in deep devotion to the emotional hygiene and heart intelligence that has created our rich and varied history.  However, it has been a long and winding road to get here.

I met Christian in early 2014, and within several months, a truly inspiring, heart opening romantic relationship began to blossom between us.  Because we were aligned and connected on so many levels, I felt a resounding “yes!” to help nurture and grow Christian’s visionary work, Heart iQ, joining his company as CEO, and by 2015 we set our sights on creating a home for the Heart iQ community.  On the first day of 2016, our shared vision was birthed!  New Eden, a beautiful retreat centre in the heart of Friesland, became ours to tend and raise like the love child it was.

As with many couples who partner in both professional purpose and romantic love, the years brought us plenty of challenges and lessons.  We shared sleepless nights and red eye flights; deliberated over financial challenges and the right next steps; gave everything we had to our community, sometimes even to our own detriment; built multiple successful businesses; traveled the world; laughed and grieved; stood before the firing squad of judgements, assumptions and doubts; and, eventually, shattered each other's hearts…yet we found our way back to one another again, stronger and deeper as a result of all that we had shared. 

As we each have grown personally, our relationship has matured and has produced a capacity for us to weather any storm together.   Our shared love is surpassed only by our courage to lean into our fears and create a culture of emotional hygiene that continues to deepen our compassion, humor, gratitude, and support for one another.  Of course, we’re not perfect. We haven't been and don't aspire to be.  However, we trust that the broad range of our individual and shared experience, from tragedy to ecstasy, as well as our hearts, gifts and skills, allow us to uniquely support each of you on your own path of becoming.

Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Heart iQ Challenge?
The Heart iQ Challenge is a 90-day online coaching program, teaching you healthy communication habits that will develop what we call "Emotional Hygiene" inside of you.

Emotional Hygiene is the result of clear, clean, non-toxic ways of communicating with those you are in connection with, and it takes practice! 

With this 90-day challenge, you will be guided step-by-step, day-by-day to increase your Heart iQ and become more hygienic in the way you relate to yourself, others and the world.
I don't have someone to do the program with, can I still do it alone?
Yes! You will still get huge value in doing this course alone, and as part of the Challenge, you will be given the opportunity to find a 'buddy' from the course and practice each week with them. 

Additionally, if you choose the Coaching version of the Challenge (recommended) you will have time each week to practice in a small group with a trained Heart iQ Challenge Coach. 
I live on the other side of world, can I still do this training?
Yes! This course is delivered 100% online and we have coaches in nearly all major time zones around the world, so you can practice & study at a time that works for you. 

As part of the bonus package when registering for this Challenge, you will also get access to our live Heart iQ Experience event at New Eden in the Netherlands. However, if you can't get here live in person, we will offer an interactive livestream version with replays so you can enjoy it wherever you are in the world!
When will the course begin? 
The course begins March 21st 2021 and runs for 90 days ending on June 21st 2021.
How much time will it take?
The course consists of videos and training materials sent five days a week, averaging approximately 30 minutes of study per day. 

Additionally, for those that choose the Live Coaching option, there are two additional live calls: one 90-minute call per week on Monday at 8pm CET with Christian and Sumir and one 2-hour small group coaching call with a Heart iQ Challenge coach.

If you are doing the challenge with a buddy, partner or loved one (which we highly recommend), we suggest self-organising two practice times a week (between 30-60mins) to put into motion the tools you'll be shown.
What's the difference between the self-study and the coaching version of the course?
Option 1 is a self-study version of the course that is for those on a tight budget and who do not feel they need the live coaching or personal support. It comes with the daily videos and online community but you will be in charge of keeping up with the training and putting it into practice. 

IMPORTANT: doing the Self-Study version will not pre-qualify you to do deeper intimacy and circle work with Christian & Sumir in the future.

Option 2 is the Live Coaching version where you not only get the video training but also 7 x live group coaching calls with Christian and Sumir AND weekly 2 hour Small Group (max 8 people) coaching calls with a Heart iQ Challenge Coach. 

These calls are invaluable and will give you a chance to practice, ask questions and get coaching you need to learn this language. 
The Live Coaching version of the course is the ONLY version which pre-qualifies you for deeper circle and intimacy work with Christian & Sumir.
I'm experienced in Heart iQ. Is this for me? 
Yes. This course will represent the cutting edge upgrades to the Heart iQ body of work, some of which will be completely new. Additionally, this course is a pre-requisite for becoming a Heart iQ Coach and Facilitator, so if you wish to go deeper in the future, then now's the time to take action.
I have other questions... What do I do?
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